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Relationships and Life's LessonsRobert Elias NajemyWhen we do not get what we want from our relationships, we often feel hurt, abused, rejected, disappointed, bitter and angry. We then have a choice to remain in our negativity or seek to use this as an opportunity for learning more about ourselves and contacting a deeper source of security, self-worth, inner fulfillment and love within ourselves. Below are some examples of behaviors, which might bother us and thus contain some possible lessons for us. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ The use of any gender is arbitrary and could be otherwise. a. When she criticizes me. b. When he does not respond to my request or needs. c. When she asks me many questions. d. When he shouts and accuses. e. When she plays the role of victim and cries. f. When she blames me for what has happened. g. When he ignores me. h. When he doesnŐt listen to me. i. When he looks at other women. j. When she is not conscientious about our agreements or responsibilities. k. When he does not agree with me. l. When he does not pay attention to me when I talk. m. When she is late for our appointment. n. When he doesnŐt help out with the cleanliness. o. When he tells lies. p. When they ignore my needs. q. When they gossips. r. When he does not tell me what he is feeling. s. When she complains too much. t. When he thinks he knows it all and does not listen to my point of view. u. When she gives me advice I have not asked for. v. When he threatens me that he will leave. w. When he does not take care of himself or does not do his share. x. When the other is weak and dependent. z. Other_______________________ What is the Lesson? We seek happiness, security, affirmation, love and fulfillment in our relationships. When these needs are not satisfied, the ultimate question is "what is my lesson here?" "How can I recreate my happiness, love and peace?" The key to discovering what we need to learn is the faith that everything that happens to us is a result of processes called mirroring, sympathetic attunement, resonance or projection. Our beliefs, emotions, expectations, fears and behaviors are mirroring, reflecting, projecting or resonating in our external world attracting the behaviors and events which we experience. Those events, behaviors or situations that cause us to feel unpleasant feelings are specifically mirroring parts of ourselves which are ripe and ready to be transformed. This is a very powerful tool for self-discovery because it gives us a very clear understanding of what we need to change while simultaneously freeing us from negative feelings towards the others. We realize that we ourselves attract the behaviors and events that create our reality. It is through exactly those stimuli that we will be motivated to evolve out of our old limiting beliefs into new beliefs, more aligned with the truths of our real spiritual nature. Some readers might not be able to accept these basic tenants. This life-philosophy is based on the following basic tenants 1. We are immortal, inherently divine beings in a process of evolution. 2. We are totally responsible for the reality we experience. 3. We evolve and mature emotionally and spiritually through a learning process stimulated and sometimes forced upon us by life's events and circumstances, and to a great degree, othersŐ behaviors. 4. Unpleasant events and circumstances are always opportunities for growth. We also learn from pleasant events and circumstances. 5. There are four factors within us, which attract these life stimuli and create our subjective reality: a. Our past actions and behaviors. b. Our present beliefs, emotions, expectations, behaviors, fears, guilt, attachments, internal conflicts and roles we play. c. The specific lessons we have come to learn as souls in evolution. d. How we interpret events and behaviors. 6. There are four areas of our lives through which we receive most of our lessons: a. Our close relationships b. Our health and physical appearance. c. Our work environment. d. Various events such as accidents, marriage, divorce, loss, gain, war, natural disasters and changes in general. 7. Most often our lessons are to be found in events, circumstances or behaviors which bother us, which are not to our satisfaction, or are painful to us. 8. The lessons we need to learn in these areas can be varied and multiple but fall the following general categories: a. To transform our conscious and subconscious beliefs. g. To change our attitudes and behavior. c. To communicate more clearly, assertively and effectively. d. To change our way of life. e. To make efforts to improve the world around us. 9. In general, our lessons involve transforming beliefs and fall into categories: a. Beliefs which we need to change in order to cease attracting or creating a situation, which bothers us. b. Beliefs which we need to transform in order to be able to accept the situation exactly as it is. c. Beliefs which we need to change in order to communicate more effectively with others concerning what is happening. d. Beliefs which we need to transform in order to be able to actively improve or change the external situation. Some examples below will help us understand this. SOME EXAMPLES OF POSSIBLE LESSONS a. If, as a soul, I need to learn to gain self-confidence, it would be only natural to create a situation in which my personality could not find external support, thus forcing me to learn to depend upon myself. b. If I need to learn self-acceptance, then it would be natural for me, as a soul, to create a situation in which I pass through a period of not being accepted by the others, so as to develop an inner base for my self-acceptance. c. If I have chosen to overcome a fear, then the obvious way to do this would be to subconsciously create or attract exactly what I fear, so that I may overcome it. d. If I need to overcome an aspect of my character such as selfishness, what better way to see my selfishness, than to confront it in others. Mirroring and Projecting There is a small difference between mirroring and projecting. When anotherŐs behavior "mirrors" something inside us, that means that there is a resonance and that the other is behaving in a way which reflects some of our beliefs, emotions or expectations. There is a silent resonance between us, which causes the other to mirror the some of our aspects. "Projection" means that we are seeing things in the otherŐs behavior, which are not there, at least not to the extent that we see them. We are subjectively interpreting and often magnifying aspects of the otherŐs behavior so that we "project" on to his or her behavior our own beliefs, needs, fears, emotions and expectations, and guilt. In future articles we will investigate more specific situations and the possible lessons that might be learned. If you would like support, Click here for greater clarity Be Well*************** Reference Box for Publishers ***** ************************************ (Robert Elias Najemy's recently released book "The Psychology of Happiness" (ISBN 0-9710116-0-5) is available at http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect-home/holisticharmo-20 and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html . 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