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Achieving Goals

Robert Elias Najemy
http://www.HolisticHarmony.com

In order to achieve our goals we will need to remove any inner obstacles towards that success.

We might be talking about any goals on any level. Some examples might be:
1. Health
2. A harmonious love relationship
3. Financial security
4. Professional satisfaction
5. Dietary discipline
6. Lose weight
7. Self-acceptance
8. Loving others as they are
9. Athletic success
10. Mental development
11. Concentration
12. Greater creative ability
13. Learning a language
14. Public speaking
15. Happiness
16. Peace
17. Thought-free meditation
18. Total honesty
Many other possibilities ________________________________________________

A. Focusing on our goal

Some of my present goals are:
1. _____________________________________________________________
2. _____________________________________________________________
3. _____________________________________________________________
4. _____________________________________________________________
5. _____________________________________________________________

The first goal I would like to work on is: _____________________________

B. Now, we look for the possible obstacles

1. I good way to discover specific obstacles we might have is to make a relaxation technique and:

a. Think about the fact that we have not yet achieved our goal and discover how we feel about not having done so yet. If we find that we have negative emotions about not having succeeded yet, we will need to employ EFT for these emotions as described below in the section on being satisfied with ourselves as we are.

b. Then, we imagine ourselves making the effort towards that goal and see how we feel about making that effort. (Do we enjoy it, or do we feel suppressed, fearful or discouraged? Do we feel that it is in vain to make this effort ? because we will never succeed?)

If we find we have resistance towards this effort, then we will need to employ EFT for those emotions and beliefs, which make the effort itself difficult or unpleasant.

c. Now, we imagine ourselves having succeeded in this effort and see how we feel now that this is not an issue any more.

If we cannot even imagine ourselves successful, then we need to work on anything, which might be obstructing that.

If on the other hand, we can imagine it but feel that we are in some type of danger or might lose something else because of this success, then we need to work on those emotions and beliefs which are subconsciously not wanting this success we are consciously seeking. Refer to some of the possibilities mentioned below.

In our search for obstacles we may want to consider the following possibilities:

2. A part of me (perhaps subconscious) might feel that in relation to this goal:

a. I do not deserve to have or fulfil this goal.
b. I cannot have or manifest this goal.
c. I am in some type of danger if I have it or fulfill this goal.
d. I am not able to have it or fulfill this goal.
e. The others do not what me to have it or fulfill it. I do not want to hurt them or conflict with them.
f. I will lose the others? love if I have it or fulfill this goal.
g. I will not be a spiritual person if I have it or fulfill this goal.
h. I will feel guilty if I have it or fulfill this goal.
i. I will harm others if I have it or fulfill this goal.
j. I am guilty and not worthy and should not have it or fulfill this goal.
k. Since I have not been able to have it until now then I cannot have it or fulfill this goal.
l. I will lose my freedom if I have it or fulfill this goal.
m. I will lose my self-worth if I have it or fulfill this goal.
n. I might lose some source of security if I have it or fulfill this goal.
o. I might give satisfaction to others - something which I do not want to do.
p. The others might cease feeling guilty about me.
q. I might lose my control over others
r. My other desires will be unfulfilled if I have it or fulfill this goal.
s. The effort to achieve this goal will be painful or unpleasant.
t. I do not have the necessary discipline to manifest this goal.
Other _________________________________________________________

3. Is there perhaps a part of me which is getting something from the role of being the victim or the "poor me" and thus subconsciously:
a. Feels that things should not go well for me.
b. I must have injustices, failures and problems.

4. Are there possibly childhood experiences concerning this goal?
a. What did you hear from your environment about this particular goal? Is it easy, difficult, good, bad, right, wrong, for your family, not for your family?
b. Did the others in your childhood environment achieve this goal? Do you have a prototype for this?
c. What were others? perceptions of you as a child? (In regard to this issue or success, ability or self-worth in general)
d. What was your own perception of yourself as a child? (In regard to this issue or success, ability or self-worth in general)
e. Did anything else happen in your childhood years, which might affect your perception of this issue?

5. How do you imagine those important to you will feel if you succeed or fail at this? How do you feel about how they might feel?

6. Do you perhaps have some type of inner conflict about this?

C. Here we list our obstacles
a. _____________________________________________________________
b. _____________________________________________________________
c. _____________________________________________________________
d. ______________________________________________________________
e. ______________________________________________________________
f. ____________________________________________________________

D. Now we want to remove our obstacles

1. First we need to remove any negative emotions which we have concerning the fact that we have not yet succeed. (Perhaps shame, failure, self-rejection, disappointment, injustice or anger etc.) Methodically organizing our efforts and energies towards the goals.
a. Relaxation and positive projection techniques in which we visualize ourselves making the effort and succeeding.
b. Analysis as to why we have these inner obstacles.
c. Behavioral therapy in which we move towards those goals, regardless of our fears or resistance.
d. Energy Psychology Techniques such as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) http://www.emofree.com (for the basics) http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/eft/index.asp (For more details on using this technique for various purposes.

2. Some of the following affirmations will help in conjunction with this process:

a. Concerning our negative emotions about not having yet succeeded

1. Even though I feel ______ about the fact that I have not yet been able to _______, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

2. Even though I feel ______ about the fact that I have not yet be able to _______, I am now actualizing (succeeding, manifesting) it.

3. I chose (want, deserve, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free of this _______ (emotion)

b. Concerning our ability to manifest this goal.

There will be times when we have discovered specific obstacles and will word our phrases according to those specific obstacles.

1. Even though I have not yet ______. I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself

2. Even though it seems that I have some (this) obstacle towards ________, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

3. Even though I have not yet ________, I am now actualizing (succeeding, manifesting) it.

4. Even though I have this _______ (specific obstacle) towards ________, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself

5. Even though I have this _______ (specific obstacle) towards ________, I am now actualizing (succeeding at, manifesting) it.

6. I choose (want, deserve, accept) to now create __________ (the goal or make this effort ? depending on the resistance).

Practice - Perseverance - Patience

Working towards goals often requires these three P?s.

Practice of EFT and all other techniques towards removing all internal and external obstacles.

Perseverance in our efforts towards those goals and in removing all obstacles.

Patience for the results to come.

May you be well

If we care for our bodies and minds, they will care for us.

Be Well
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Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 600 articles, 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony and 20 books, which have sold over 100,000 copies.
He is the Founder and director of the Center for Harmonious Living in Greece with 3700 members.
His book The Psychology of Happiness is available at http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0971011605/holisticharmo-20 and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html.
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