1. We can start by making a list of "reasons" for which we were criticized as children. This will help us understand:
a. Why we illogically lose our feelings of self-worth in some cases.
b. Why we are attracted to some activities which we ourselves reject. We are often attracted to that which was forbidden.
c. Why might have an irrational desire to relive the rejection we experienced as children. If we do not find others to reject us, then we subconsciously reject ourselves.
Our parents’ voices work within us, creating guilt and pressures, even long after they have left their physical bodies.
d. Why we get involved in internal conflicts where one part of ourselves is playing the parent, who is forbidding and rejecting the child, who also dwells within us.

2. Regressions to childhood years in which we focus on moments when, as a child, we felt rejection, shame, or guilt.

3. We can write letters to those persons who were present in those childhood moments, explaining to them how we felt then and how we feel now about what happened then.

4. We can participate in Psychodrama with an experienced professional, in which we play out those scenes from the past so as to release them and gradually rebuild them, transforming the way in which we perceived them and reacted.

5. We can apply the technique called the Transformation of the emotion, especially for the emotions of self-doubt and self-rejection. (Requires a trained professional.)

6. We can also write letters asking for forgiveness from others, as well as from God and perhaps even ourselves. This might uncover even deeper feelings of guilt or hurt festering beneath the surface. These letters need not be given to anyone unless we are inspired to do so. Their power is in our ability to express these thoughts and realizations, and most important of all, our regret for any pain we may have triggered in anyone.
This may be a humbling experience, but it is exactly what the ego needs to release itself from these repetitive patterns of guilt.
This is the psychology behind the sacraments of Confession, Repentance, and Holy Communion.
a. First, we realize where we are in conflict with our conscience. This is self-knowledge.
b. Then we gain the strength to admit this to others.
This confession frees us from the ego through humility.
c. We then change the way we think and act. This is repentance.
In this way, we recreate feelings of purity and union with the Divine. The benefit of this process can be understood theologically, psychologically and vibrationally.
The process of writing these confessional letters will help us to realize and release what weighs heavily on our conscience, thus freeing large amounts of energy and inner peace.

7. This confessional expression in which we also ask for forgiveness can be done verbally in the form of psychodrama with a priest, psychologist or facilitator. It can also be done alone while looking at photographs of the persons to whom we wish to speak. We can also close our eyes and speak verbally to a wall, as we imagine the persons we are addressing standing before us.

8. In some cases, we might seek out the persons and speak to them directly.

These last few techniques will be most applicable to those guilt feelings based upon actions in conflict with our conscience. In some cases, however, our problem might be a mixture of both, that is we feel guilt because we are under the influence of social programming, and also because of our conscience.
Our social programming undermines our feelings of self-worth, and thus leads us to actions about which we feel guilty. It becomes a vicious circle.
In these cases, we must apply techniques for both types of obstacles toward self-acceptance, some for getting free from social programming and others for aligning our behavior with our conscience.

9. Reevaluating how we measure our self worth

We need to realize how we have been programmed to measure our self-worth.

We generally measure our self-worth by:
a. The results of our efforts.
b. Others’ opinion of us and our results.
c. Our subjective perception of what others think about us.
d. How we compare to others in some specific ability or quality.
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