2. These general written affirmations can then be continued as personally designed ones, as explained in that chapter.

3. The research technique for self-acceptance can be employed. This technique requires two persons.
a. The one who wants to work on him or her self, sits comfortably with eyes closed. The other has a pen and paper on which to write.
b. Hold hands and take the oath of secrecy concerning whatever is said. Then take a second oath of truth that each will speak out whatever comes to his or her mind.
c. Release the hands. The person who is working on himself remains with closed eyes and places his hands on his lower abdomen. As he focuses on that part of the body, he begins to verbalize the following phrase, "I lose my feelings of self-worth or my self acceptance when..." and then allows the phrase to complete itself spontaneously.
He repeats this phrase over and over, allowing the answers to flow forth freely without control, as the person next to him writes down the reasons and situations he verbalizes. This goes on for about ten minutes, creating a list of obstacles toward feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance.
The person should not open his eyes and should continue for the whole length of time without stopping because "he has nothing else to say". Duration is an important factor for bypassing various defense mechanisms. It is not necessary that we have an answer in our minds before we start verbalizing the phrase. Even if we have nothing in our minds as an answer, we should repeat the phrase at least once per minute and allow the subconscious to supply an answer. It is perfectly okay to repeat the same answer more than once if it keeps coming up. This is significant.
d. When this part of the exercise is completed, we move on to the phrase, "I feel especially good about myself when ...." or "I love and accept myself especially when...." The same guidelines apply to this phrase, and this continues for 10 minutes. The other writes all the answers to these incomplete phrases.
e. In the case that both individuals are interested in searching the subject, they would now change roles. In the end, each of you will have a much deeper realization of your obstacles toward self-acceptance. You will also a list of reasons and truths that enable you to love and accept yourselves.

Some might say that they could do this alone or in written form. I would encourage them to do both, but not to imagine they are getting the same benefits. Each exercise has its own benefits. We come to different realizations when working alone, when writing or when working verbally with another person. One technique is no better than the other, but they do not replace each other. Each has its own very special attributes.

This same exercise could be applied in exactly the same way with other phrases such as:
1. "I lose my sense of love and union with others when..." followed by "I feel especially open and close to others when..."
2. "I lose my sense of security when...." followed by "I feel especially secure when..."
3. " I lose my feelings of being close to God when..." followed by "I feel close to God when..."
4. " I find it difficult to be myself when..." followed by " I find it is easy to be myself when..."
5. "I lose my sense of freedom when..." followed by " I feel free when..."

There are many other possibilities depending on what we want to explore.
To be continued ...
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