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May this find you well and happy. ********************************* This is Part 7 of your 18 segment weekly email course which you requested on "Learning Through Relationships". These segments are from the books "The Psychology of Happiness" and "Relationships of Conscious Love" " which we suggest you order as an ebook (pdf file) at http:HolisticHarmony.com/ebooks/index.asp. This information is also explained in the book "The Psychology of Happiness" which can be found in your booksores at Amazon.com or for 40% discount at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html May you enjoy it and benefit from it. ********************************** ANGER Vicky never expresses her anger, but receives everyone else's. It is not that she does not feel anger. She often feels hurt and angry, but she never expresses that anger to those around her. She rejected anger as an emotion in her childhood because she had received it continuously from her mother and had sworn never to be like her. Thus, although she frequently feels abused and angry, she never expresses her anger. Unfortunately, her husband and children receive that anger silently through her energy patterns and reflect back to her that anger she is not expressing. Then Vicky feels even more abused. She feels she has reasons to be angry and is not expressing it, and the others are now abusing her even more. Her husband, Christopher, cannot understand why he is frequently angry with Vicky. He is not aware that he is reflecting back her unexpressed anger, which is boiling under the surface of her apparent role of the victim. He, on the other hand, becomes angry easily because his father was always angry. Thus, Christopher learned to solve his problems with anger. When other do not behave as he wants or obstruct him from having what he wants, he immediately becomes angry and adopts the role of the intimidator. For him, the others are always wrong and responsible for his unpleasant feelings. This is how he learned to function from his father. Vicky, however, not being able to acknowledge her anger, for fear of behaving like her mother, whom she rejected and is ashamed of, is continuously in the role of the victim, just as she was during childhood. In a sense, they are a "perfect" pair, an intimidator and a victim who both had angry parents but responded differently. Of course, neither is happy nor satisfied with the other. What do they need to learn in order to get out of these roles and into a conscious love relationship? Vicky: Does she perhaps need to learn some of the following lessons: To overcome her fear of conflict? To overcome the attachment or the fear that causes her anger and learn to love the others as they are? To learn to express her anger in the form of an "I-message"? To learn patience, forgiveness, understanding? To realize that she has the right to express her needs and feelings and for them to be heard and understood by the others? To believe that the others love her? To be more pleasant and positive to the others? To get free from the belief that she is the victim or that others want to use or hurt her? To work on her childhood years and forgive her mother? To feel comfortable saying "no" and believe that the other will love her anyway? To express her needs more clearly and not expect the other to be a mind reader? To express her needs frequently and not expect the other to understand the first time? To acknowledge her anger and be able to express and explain it to the others? To not fear the other or give him or her so much power to criticize her or suppress her? To cultivate feelings of greater self-confidence and self-worth and to feel equal with others? To love and accept the other as he or she is without fearing him? To remember that she is Godąs child and has the same value, rights and power all others have. To love and accept herself even when others criticize her or shout at her, and to realize that they have some problem? To express herself more clearly, lovingly and assertively without fear of what kind of reaction she might receive? To free herself from past experiences in which she might have been programmed to believe she would receive this kind of reaction? To check if she perhaps has antagonistic feelings toward the other. Perhaps she is competing for who is right or who is most capable. If so, to stop competing? Christopher: Does he perhaps need to learn some of the following lessons: To work on his childhood years and his relationship with his father? To realize that he creates his reality, not the others? To learn to express his needs with I-messages and not anger? To respect the others more and not behave toward them in a way in which he would not like the others to behave toward him? To find greater peace within himself? To help Vicky get free from the role of the victim and express herself? Ideally, they will have the courage to take a look at their programmings and free themselves from these roles. ************************************ If you like what you are reading, you willădefinetly want to get the book Mystical Circle of Life by Robert Elias Najemy, which can be downloaded as an ebook pdf file or ordered from http://HolisticHarmony.com/ebooks/index.asp ******************************** Membership is free and you can access 600 articles, chapters and ebooks for free.Become a Member********* Our Free ezine Claritygreater health, happiness and harmonious relationships. Click to subscribe/unsubscribe to Clarity E-zine May you be well on all levels of your being. | |