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May this find you well and happy. ********************************* This is Part 2 of your 15 segment weekly email course which you requested on "Codependency and Cocommitment". These from the "Relationships of Conscious Love" which we suggest you order as an ebook (pdf file) at http:HolisticHarmony.com/ebooks/index.asp. May you enjoy and benefit from it. ********************************** MOVING FROM CO-DEPENDENCY TO CO-COMMITMENT In co-commitment we learn to confront our fears of becoming intimate. This is not always easy at first as we may have fears about getting very close to someone. Some of those fears might be: a. I am not worthy and if the other knows me well, he or she will not want to be with me. b. I might be hurt or rejected or betrayed. c. The other might abandon me and then I will not be able to cope with that. d. I will lose my freedom e. I will not be able to be myself. A part of the co-commitment relationship is to be able to be intimate while simultaneously independent. Few have managed to find this balance. Some have mastered the ability to be close, but find it difficult to be happy alone. Others may find it easier to be okay alone but are not able to be intimate. Some of the behaviors which possibly exhibit a fear of being very close with someone might be: a. We withdraw into our selves and avoid deep or meaningful contact with the other. b. We mentally manufacture faults in the other so that we are justified in not getting closer. c. We become emotionally numb and lose contact with our feelings. d. We start arguments in order to create a distance from the other. e. We subconsciously create an illness that prevents us from getting closer. f. We tend to live in the past and avoid the present and thus contact with the other. g. We become absorbed in our work or hobby or any activity so as to avoid the other. The above reactions are unconscious self-protective mechanisms, which unfortunately seldom protect us and always imprison us in lives without love or growth. Such reactions will be even more prevalent when the others are playing roles such as intimidator or interrogator and in some cases even victim and aloof. But, just as we have the fear getting close to the other, we also fear being far from the other. There is a Greek saying, "we cannot be happy together and cannot be happy apart." When then can we be happy? This is the nature of codependence - fear of being close and fear of being apart. Continued ************************************ If you like what you are reading, you willădefinetly want to get the book Relationships of Conscious Love by Robert Elias Najemy, which can be downloaded as an ebook pdf file or ordered from http://HolisticHarmony.com/ebooks/index.asp ******************************** B> ********* Membership is free and you can access 600 articles, chapters and ebooks for free.Become a Member********* Our Free ezine Claritygreater health, happiness and harmonious relationships. Click to subscribe/unsubscribe to Clarity E-zine May you be well on all levels of your being. | |