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The Psychology of Happiness
Concepts for a Happier more Harmonious life
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January 7th , 2004 Circulation 2300 Issue # 54
Focus - HELPING OTHERS TO DEPART PEACEFULLY AND CONSCIOUSLY
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HELPING A PERSON TO FACE DEATH CONSCIOUSLY
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At the beginning of this chapter we mentioned some general ways in which we can help a dying person regardless of whether he is able to face the reality of his death or not. Summarized, they are:
1) Seeing to his practical needs.
2) Helping him to fulfill his desires and making his environment comfortable.
3) Helping him to learn to relax.
4) Massage, stroking , spiritual healing, therapeutic touch and loving contact.
5) Meditation, prayer and positive projection in which we see him well.
6) To be as cheerful and optimistic as possible (but not falsely so).
If the person is psychologically able to consciously face his impending death and use it as a spiritual growth process, then we can proceed even further.
1) We can discuss any changes or practical considerations concerning his last will and testament.
2) We can discuss with him our beliefs about live and death. Let him express his beliefs first and express your own only if they are asked for. In discussing your beliefs, you may also refer to some of the reference material that is available concerning what happens after death. (This material has been presented in other chapters). If the dying patient seems to be interested in hearing more, or investigating the subject more deeply, then you may bring him some books, or read to him if he is unable to read on his own. You may also bring him recorded lectures or recorded books on such subjects.
A word of caution here. Be sure not to force or push a patient beyond his comfortable limit in facing these matters. As you are speaking, be very sensitive to his facial expressions, in deciding whether to continue or not. If he seems interested and relaxed by the conversation then continue, if not, then change the subject.
It may also be meaningful to discuss views concerning the purpose of life, and why the spirit takes on this physical body. Needless to say such discussions are a spiritual blessing for all involved.
In some cases we may not want to discuss ideas or concepts at all, but simply deal with the emotions we are both feeling. Both he, who is dying, and he, who is being left behind, will have a wide range of feelings. It may be a very healing experience for both to communicate deeply their feelings. Also the techniques of "energy psychology" would be very useful here. (See the book Free to be Happy with Energy Psychology.)
The most important point is to be totally natural and sincere. Have no preconceived conceptions as you are going into the room of a «dying person» that you are going to discuss «this» or «that». Let everything flow from the heart, but simply do not be afraid to discuss any issue, and at the same time, do not be attached to discussing some particular issue. You are there to serve, allow the other to guide the flow of the conversation.
3) Another important factor in helping people face death is to help them to face the various relationship problems they might have. Help them to discover where they are holding resentment or bitterness towards anyone. Help them forgive these people and let go of their negative feelings. If they are unable to let go of these feelings, help them to express them first and then let go of them when they are ready. They might like to write a letter to someone with whom they have some repressed message to express.
If they are unable to face the other person, then they can work on harmonizing the relationship mentally. They can visualize the person and let go of their negative feelings toward that person and send light and love to that person, wishing him to be well. Such an activity is worthwhile whether or not we are facing death. It opens up a whole new flow of life energy and love in us which was blocked by those negative feelings.
4) We can help the dying patient consciously to let go of this attachments. This can be done through discussion of their various attachments and the realization that one really can continue to exist without them. Often simply by openly discussing one¢s fears and attachments, they are gradually surpassed. We can encourage him to concentrate more on the Divine or his inner immortal self for this sense of security; thus enabling him to let go of other attachments.
5) Through guided deep relaxation and hypnotism the individual can be helped to develop a greater contact with his inner self and with God. He may also be guided into simulated after-death states, in which he experiences himself free from his physical body. Thus he may gradually experience himself as a spiritual being and not simply as a body.
6) He may want to participate in the sacraments of Confession and Holy Communion from a clergyman of his religion. If not, he may want to have a confessional type of talk in which he can unload his heart of some of his regrets and doubts.
In general, the individual must be helped to experience himself more as an immortal spiritual being who is about to undergo a transition in focus of consciousness. He needs to increase his contact with his inner self and gradually become free from the attachments and relationships that bind him to the physical world which he must now leave. This is a similar process to arranging affairs to move to another country. We must close up our homes and dispose of whatever we cannot take with us. At the same time we will want to have as much information as possible about what to expect in this new place we are going to live in.
How wonderful it would be if in the future, we could all face death with dignity, clarity, peace, joy and spiritual awareness. Hospices have been created in the U.S.A. and Europe where people can spend their last days consciously using them as an opportunity for personal growth and spiritual development. These centers offer a wonderful opportunity both for those who are dying and those who work there.
Perhaps death in the future will be somewhat as Alice Bailey describes it here:
«All I plead in a sane approach to death; all I seek to make is a suggestion that when pain has worn itself out and weakness has supervened, the dying person be permitted to prepare himself, even if apparently unconscious, for the great transition? Is it impossible to conceive of a time when the act of dying will be a triumphant finale to life? Is it impossible to vision the time when the hours on the deathbed may be but a glorious prelude to a conscious exit? When the fact that the man is to discard the handicap of the physical sheath may be for him and those around him the long-awaited for and joyous consummation? Can you not visualize the time when, instead of tears and fears and refusal to recognize the inevitable, the dying person and his friends would mutually agree on the hour, and that nothing but happiness would characterize the passing?? I tell you that before so very long, this will be deeply so for the intelligent of the race and little by little for all».
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GUIDING THE SPIRIT ONCE IT HAS LEFT THE PHYSICAL BODY
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We have mentioned in the earlier chapters that the spirit is able to hear and see what is going on here on the earth plane, even after its departure from the physical body. We have also mentioned that the spirit may be a little disorientated during the first days as it has to reorient itself to a new set of laws and conditions which it finds in the after-death state.
There will, of course, be spirit guides who will help the spirit in this process of transition. We can also help out by communicating certain guidance to spirit during the various stages of his after-death existence. The rate at which the spirit will pass through the various after-death existences will vary from spirit to spirit. Also, the experiences he will have will vary according to the contents of the mind he has taken with him upon leaving the body.
Here are some general guidelines, which we can follow in our communication with the spirits in those moments, after death. The following information is taken from the Tibetan Book of the Dead.
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THE FIRST 20 MINUTES TO 4 HOURS
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The first moments after the spirit leaves the physical body represent a great opportunity for it to evolve spiritually, if it is able to keep his mind positively oriented.
For the first twenty minutes it is considered that the spirit will be facing the pure light, which is so overpoweringly brilliant, that the spirit avoids looking directly at it. During these moments the spirit can be guided verbally or non-verbally not to fear the White Light and to face it and merge with it. This Pure Light can be considered to be the Christ Light in Christian terms. Many of Moody¢s cases saw this brilliant light and were amazed by it. The individual should be encouraged to merge with it.
After the first twenty minutes the individual can be guided in three ways according to his nature and state of evolution:
1) If he was a person who has done much meditation and had worked on controlling the mind, we explain to him that whatever he is seeing is simply a reflection of his own pure consciousness. The Pure White Light is in reality his own pure consciousness, he should merge with it.
2) If the person was a religious person who worshiped a particular form of God, then we can guide him to see that form before him now and feel the blessing of that divine being. We can then guide him to merge with his chosen deity.
3) If the person has no particular deity which he worshiped, then he can be guided to meditate on the Great Compassionate Lord in whatever way that he can. He is guided to bring to his mind some concept of God; however God may appear for that spirit.
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AFTER 4 HOURS AND FOR THE NEXT THREE TO FOUR DAYS
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The opportunity of using the Pure White Light for liberation has passed and if the spirit has not succeeded, (something which we cannot really know), it will go on to other experiences. In the case of the advanced spirits, we remind it over and over that whatever it is experiencing is simply the contents of its mind. That what it is seeing is its own thought forms taking shape before it. We encourage the spirit to have no fear of anything that it sees, neither to be attracted to anything that it may see, but rather to simply watch it all like a movie.
Those who have had religious inclinations during their earth years are encouraged to concentrate on and pray to their deity. We may even imagine the departed spirit to be in the presence and protection of God.
For those who have had no spiritual inclinations we can encourage them to listen to the advice of the spirit guides who have come to help them with the transition.
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AS THE DAYS PASS
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There is no time, in the dimension in which the spirit now exists, and thus it is difficult to talk about the beginning and ending of after-death stages. An advanced spirit may immediately leave the earth plane and need no guidance at all. Another spirit, who was very attached to the earth plane, may hang around for years and need much guidance and advice from both dimensions in order to let go and continue with his evolution.
There is some general advice that can be given to spirits, however, after the fourth day. We can communicate the following to them verbally or mentally.
1) Death comes to all; it is nothing unusual. It is a perfectly normal state.
2) There is no sense in clinging to earthly life out of attachment or weakness.
3) You have no power to remain even if you want to.
4) If you try to remain, you will just get lost in endless futile searching.
5) Remember and focus on God.
6) Do not fear anything that you see.
7) All that you see are reflections of your own mind.
8) Those images you see are simply the nature of the experience you are passing through. They are not permanent; they will not last. (Regardless of whether they are pleasant or unpleasant).
9) Do not be afraid of any strong lights or sounds. They are simply the creations of your own mind,
just observe them.
10) Since you now exist in your thought-body and do not have a physical body, you are incapable of being harmed or dying.
11) Do not be disturbed by anything that is happening here on the earth. Be detached from everything and feel only love for all beings.
12) Use your ability to pray and meditate in your new environment and concentrate to God and Love.
We may visualize our loved one flowing upward on a ray of light in the guidance of angels moving towards God. We may see our loved one surrounded by white light moving upwards continuing with his spiritual evolution.
And then, in order that the spirit may freely ascend, we must let go of our attachment to it and our sorrow, and learn to live in joy and love.
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