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The Psychology of Happiness
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=> Editorial - Free to be Happy
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=> 1. What is EFT?
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=> 2. How we employ EFT
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=> 3. "EFT and Overcoming Fear "
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=> 5. Emotional Freedom Techniques
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=> Editorial - Free to be Happy
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*** Free to be Happy ***
I have been searching methodically for over 30 years for means of how to help people create the health, happiness and harmony they desire.
I have tried out many many systems as you can probably tell from our web site.
What I have found now in the form of Thought Field Therapy by Dr. Roger Callahan and Emotional Freedom Techniques far surpases all methods I have have encountgered until now.
At last we have an extremely simple and unbelievably (and this is the correct word) effective and way of freeign ourselves from negative emotions.
I call my book on ths subject FREE TO BE HAPPY with EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques and Energy Psychology.
You can order it at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/eft.html
We could also call this book.
Free to be Peaceful.
Free to Love Unconditionally
Free to be Creative
Free to Solve your Problems
Free to be Healthy
Free to Manifest your Unlimited Potential
Free to Realize your Spiritual Self
Finally Dr. Roger Callahan has discovered a method which enables all of this.
One of his students, Gary Craig has simplified Dr. Callahan?s discovery so that more can benefit from it.
This book deals with how to employ that new discovery in all aspects of your life and for all of your important issues.
Soon you will order it through our web site. Until then you can simply send me an email indicating that you are interested.
Also those if you living in the New England area might want to benefit from the seminars which I will be offering this summer in Worcester, Massachusetts and White River Junction, Vermont.
Email us for details at ren@holisticharmony.com
May you enjoy the freedom to be happy, healthy, loving, creative and harmonious in your life.
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=> 1. What is EFT?
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Chapter one
What is EFT?
EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques and is one of a number of energy-based psychological or psychotherapeutic methods based on the regulation and harmonization of the human energy system while we are focused on a certain ordinarily disturbing thought.
Its founder Gary Craig, previously a civil engineer, has been dedicated for many years to helping people live happier lives. He learned the basics of this method from his teacher Dr. Roger Callahan.
In 1980 Dr. Roger Callahan, a dedicated psychologist, after many years of relentless empirical and intuitive searching for more effective ways to relieve his clients of their problems, made an incredible discovery which will forever change the nature of psychology and physical and mental therapy.
A Leap in Perception
This discovery is such a quantum jump in our perception of the nature of mental and physical illness that some professionals cannot yet embrace it because of their inability to let go of previous conceptions.
Until recently, I was one of those who could not embrace it. Around 15 years ago I first saw Dr. Callahan?s Love Pain video where he demonstrated his healing technique in which through a tapping procedure people overcame the pain they felt upon of the loss of loved ones.
I observed that truly the people seemed to feel better. But I put the video on the shelf for 15 years, even though I have been working with people?s problems daily all these years.
Understanding EFT
My training is as a chemical engineer. After two years of working for Uniroyal Chemical, I decided that I would prefer to work with people rather than machines and chemicals. I have dedicated the last 35 years of my life to researching and employing techniques for enhancing human harmony on all levels; physical, emotional, mental, social, professional and spiritual. I have then shared these techniques with others through books, lectures and seminars.
Because of my training as an engineer I feel the need to understand the mechanisms behind whatever I do. They have to fit into my perception of reality as a human being. I could not understand what I saw on that first video. Additionally, I need to try out whatever I do on myself first.
I often thought of trying out the Love Pain video on others, but felt that I would look foolish and so I left it on the shelf. About a year ago, a dear friend of mine said that she would be interested in taking a course in energy psychology at a university. I immediately recalled that old video and we watched it together.
A New World of Possibilities
From that day, I have been employing it on myself and hundreds of others in seminars and counseling sessions. A whole new world of possibilities has opened up to me. I am so deeply grateful to Dr. Callahan and his student Gary Craig for bringing this new information to the public.
Before EFT, I often felt discouraged when working with people because even though I was offering a combination of the best (in my perception) of what existed, I was not satisfied with the results. (In our seminars and personal appointments we use Active Listening, Psychoanalysis, Cognitive therapy, Journaling, Behavioral Therapy, EMDR, Childhood regressions, Gestalt Dialoguing, Body Centered Psychology, Rebirthing, Catharsis work, spiritual healing and various teachings. Some of our seminars meet once a week for six years.)
I still feel that all of the above are beneficial, but none of them compares with TFT or EFT for actually liberating a person from his or her problem.
I am so happy that I now have a tool that I know will work, and that is so simple that it can be taught to others.
Instant Cures
Interestingly enough, Dr. Callahan actually went through an economic crisis some years after his discovery because he actually cured his patients in one or two sessions and did not have to see them over and over. Neither would people say, "look this is something which previously would have taken 20 visits, so please let me pay you accordingly." Additionally, it is probable that many of those problems would not have been cured at all with other methods.
This indicates the effectiveness of this system.
How does it work ?
For a more detailed analysis of how this discovery was made you can refer to Dr. Callahan?s site (http://www.tftrx.com) or Gary Craig?s site (http://www.emofree.com) where you can order their books and videos.
I will give my own interpretation or "unifying theory" of why this works in a later chapter.
In 1980, Dr. Callahan had a patient, Mary, (they have both appeared on national TV a number of times to tell this story) who had an extreme fear of water. She could not even watch it on TV and was afraid when it rained. They had been working on this problem for a year and had come to the point of getting Mary to Dr. Callahanãs home to sit far from the pool and analyze what she was feeling and how she could overcome this.
According to Dr. Callahan, their only accomplishment was that Mary discovered that she could withstand much more pain than she knew.
She never stopped feeling intense fear. One day she was suffering intensely because of her presence near the water and she also mentioned that her abdominal area was hurting her. (A natural reaction when we feel fear). That was a crucial moment in history, because Dr. Callahan remembered that there was an acupuncture point for the stomach meridian just on the cheekbone and he asked her to tap there.
She tapped only a few times and looked up and said, "it?s gone". Dr. Callahan had no idea what she meant and what was happening. Not only was her stomach pain gone but also her fear. She got up and approached the pool with no fear whatsoever.
Today her fear is still gone!
What could not be accomplished by a year of weekly psychotherapy meetings with one of the most accomplished psychologists in the country was achieved in less that 30 seconds by tapping on the cheek bone.
Dr. Callahan did not know how to interpret and integrate what had happened. It took him a number of years and dedicated research to gradually create the most powerful therapeutic tool known.
For details of that process you can refer to his books, cassettes, videos and courses.
S0 what is this system?
It is simple.
1. We focus on the thought (stimulus, emotion or physical phenomenon) which brings forth the unpleasant emotional or physical problem such as fear, hurt, anger, guilt or some physical pain.
2. We measure how intense our feeling or pain is from 0 - 10. This is called the SUD (Subjective Units of Disturbance). Zero means no disturbance at all. Ten means we are feeling the maximum intensity we can imagine. (Considering our present frame of reference.)
3. Then we tap on certain acupuncture points on the face, chest and hands. (There are also other aspects to this procedure we will explain later.) Tapping on the acupuncture points initiates the flow of energy through the energy channels or meridians, thus correcting the disturbance in the energy field associated with that problem.
4. Then we again check our SUD or intensity of feeling. If it has not gone to 1 or zero then we tap on these points again.
5. We keep doing this tapping, checking how we feel, until the problem disappears.
That is basically all there is to it. Employing it, however, requires more detailed knowledge of what to do. This will be covered in this book.
The concept is that when we are focused on the particular thought which bothers us, then the particular disturbed energy pattern ("perturbation" according to Dr Callahan or "disruption in the body?s energy system" according to Gary Graig) associated with this thought is present and predominant in our body?s energy system. This creates our emotional and physical state.
Gary?s explanation is: "The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body?s energy system."
When we tap on these acupuncture points, we are affecting and releasing the flow in that field and thus removing the blockages and disturbances which were creating the emotion and/or physical problem.
Sometimes this correction is only temporary, but usually it is permanent.
100 % Overhaul
Gary?s system, which is a general (100%) overhaul of the energy system, also automatically corrects for possible Psychological Reversal - a type of inner resistance (electrical and psychological) towards improvement, whether it exists or not. Otherwise we would have to test for this, something that is difficult for those untrained in the field.
Having said this, let us now move on to how to employ EFT.
(For a more detailed theory of why and how this works see the chapter of my book on a Unifying Theory)
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How we employ EFT
Note about employing EFT on others:
Although theoretically anyone could share this with another, my personal feeling is that this may not be a good idea in some cases. Some people have much pent up pain and fear and tapping in some cases can bring this up to the surface creating situations which require the expertise of a professional experienced in dealing with emotional crises.
This may happen in only 10 % of the cases, but I think that this is high enough of a possibility for people who want to work on serious problems to do so with the guidance of an experienced professional.
The professional need not be trained in EFT but should be familiar with how to deal with emotions, which might surface. Many EFT practitioners are also doctors or psychotherapists
On the other hand, people all over the world are learning EFT and employing it on themselves with wonderful results.
My perception is that participating in a weekend seminar on EFT and learning all the details is not the same as being told by a friend to just tap on some points.
As with all techniques, it is better to become extremely proficient in this method before you start sharing it with others.
Those interested in becoming EFT practitioners in order to help others can do so through www.emofree.com.
The Round
We will refer to the whole procedure as one round.
Each round consists of four steps. The second and fourth steps are the same.
Step 1. The Setup
a. We bring to mind the emotion or physical problem we want to free ourselves from, by correcting the energy flow associated with that disturbed energy field.
b. We estimate the SUD or subjective units of discomfort (or disturbance) from 0 to 10, where zero means no discomfort, emotion or pain whatsoever and ten means the highest we can imagine.
If working alone it might be good to write this down so you can remember how disturbed you were at the start.
If employing this on someone else, you also may want to write this down so as to follow the procedure and remember where you are.
c. Now we correct for psychological reversal just in case it is present.
Some people have an inner resistance to getting well. Whatever approach they employ, it just doesn?t work for them. These persons might have subconscious beliefs, needs or fears, which are preventing improvement. We would suspect that they have some subconscious "benefit" or "protection" from not achieving the improvement they are consciously seeking. I would agree with this concept.
Dr. Callahan has hypothesized that there is actually a reversal in the polarity of the body?s energy field, which prevents the correction from taking place when employing TFT, EFT or any other healing technique for that matter.
Gary uses the example of a battery being placed with the wrong polarity in a cassette player. It will simply not work, whatever we do. Thus, if there is psychological reversal, our tapping will not be able to correct the disturbed energy field.
This became very obvious to Dr. Callahan when he learned "arm testing" which shows how our thoughts affect our energy field. When he purposely thought positive thoughts his arm was strong. When he thought disturbing thoughts, his arm went weak. This is also the case for truth and lies. When we speak the truth, our arm becomes strong to external resistance. (Someone pushing down on it.) When we say something in contradiction with our inner feelings or truth, then our extended arm loses strength against someone pushing down on it. We can also check out the effect of food substances on our energy field in this way.
He was working with a woman who was coming to him for help to lose weight. After some time, when she was not getting any results, he asked her to hold out her arm and he pushed on it to test its strength. He then asked her to say, "I want to lose weight." When she said this, her arm became weaker against his pressure. He then asked her to say, "I do not want to lose weight." When she said this, her arm became stronger. This indicated that in truth she did not actually want to lose weight. This was his first realization of the existence of psychological reversal in the energy field.
Thus, in some cases, we have an energy or psychological reversal as it is called in TFT and EFT, which needs to be corrected in order to get the results we want.
According to Gary?s experience, about 40% of us have psychological reversal on some issues. Fewer have a general reversal on most of their life issues. These people usually are those who have depression, serious diseases and / or addictions to self-sabotaging substances such as drugs, alcohol, cigarettes etc. We will discuss this further.
Some of us have a subconscious tendency to undermine our own efforts perhaps because we believe we do not deserve a better reality or we fear success for some reason.
In Gary?s 100% overhaul we correct for any possible psychological reversal just in case. We lose nothing, because if there was no reversal, then we have simply spent less than 30 seconds correcting for something, which wasn?t there. It does not create reversal if there was none to begin with.
How do we correct for psychological reversal?
There are basically four ways.
1. The simplest is to tap on the side of the hand at the point on the hand where we would hit a piece of wood if we were hitting it with a karate chop. (Doesn?t matter which hand).
(In Dr. Callahan?s TFT, there is no need to saying anything while tapping.)
In EFT, while tapping, we repeat the setup phrase, which could be something like this:
a.1. Even though I have this (fill in your emotion) _______, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
a.2. I love and accept myself even though I have this (fill in your emotion) _______.
a.3. Even though I have this (fill in your emotion) _______, I love and accept myself exactly as I am.
You can formulate your own phrase as long as it contains these two aspects:
* Recognition or acknowledgment of what you feel.
* Acceptance and love of yourself even with what you feel.
We will give other examples of the setup phrases for psychological reversal throughout the book.
2. The second method is to repeat these same affirmations as we rub the "sore spot". This is on the side of the chest approximately 3 inches down and 3 inches to the right or left of the hollow spot at the top of the sternum, in the center of the chest. (See the diagram.)
We should rub with circular movements pushing inwards rubbing the skin over the bones and muscles, not rubbing our fingers over the skin or clothing.
We will present you a modification of this setup procedure in a future chapter.
These are the two basic methods of removing psychological reversal; repeating the setup phrase as we either tap on the side of the hand or rub the sore spot. It does not matter on which side of the body we tap or rub. We can also change.
3. Dr. Callahan has discovered that in some cases the Bach Flower "Rescue Remedy" can correct for psychological reversal. Four drops under the tongue or with a glass of water should do.
4. There is a fourth method also discovered by Dr. Callahan, which will be explained later, which is called "Collarbone Breathing".
As this procedure is more time consuming (about two to four minutes) it is used when we have tried all other forms of correcting psychological reversal and still are not getting the results we would like.
So this is step one. We:
* Focus on the thought, which causes our disturbance.
* Estimate the SUD or degree of discomfort.
* Correct for possible psychological reversal.
Step 2: The Tapping Sequence
We are now ready to tap on the twelve points so as to remove the disturbance in the energy field.
These points are usually the beginning or end points of the acupuncture meridians (energy channels) and can be seen on the accompanying diagram. We tap on them about seven times each in this sequence. It really does not matter how many times you tap. It should however be more than five.
This initiates the flow of energy through these energy channels, thus correcting the disturbance in the energy field associated with that problem.
There are many ways to tap which different people find suitable as they work with EFT. In general, however, tapping should have a good pace - not too slow - and with an abrupt percussive hit on each tap. But never painful or in anyway damaging.
One hypothesis is that we are creating, by tapping, a piezoelectric impulse, which causes the energy to flow throughout the meridians.
We tap with the tips of the index and middle finger of either hand. The area covered by these two fingers is larger than the area of the points themselves and gives us a safety factor of hitting on the point when we tap.
We could even switch hands while tapping, if one gets tired.
Reminder Phrase
As we tap at each point, we can verbally, or perhaps mentally in cases where we do not want to be heard, repeat the "reminder phrase". The reminder phrase is simply a declaration of which energy field we are tapping on. This helps us to be focused on this particular energy field as we tap, correcting this particular field with our tapping.
Thus the reminder phrase will mention the emotion or physical problem we are tapping for and perhaps also the stimulus for that.
For example:
Fear of heights.
Fear of speaking in front of others
Fear of being abandoned
Anger when they correct me.
Pain in the lower back.
Anxiety about this test.
The more specific the phrase the better. We could just say:
This fear
Anger
Anxiety
Pain
But then the tapping would be addressed to a much larger and more complicated energy field made up of many various types of fears, anger, anxiety or pain. If we employ daily a number of rounds on this general issue for weeks, we will eventually have results. In many cases, however, as we are tapping for a general emotion or issue, we will become aware of specific problems, which will arise to be worked on.
This is the beauty of EFT. When we work on any particular desired state such as freedom from fear, anxiety, pain or anger, it will bring into our thought field the various specific obstacles towards that goal.
We work specifically on those particular obstacles and gradually remove all the "bars" to our freedom.
This will be understood more clearly further on.
We repeat the reminder phrase one time for each point that we tap. We tap a number of times (say about seven) while we repeat this phrase verbally or mentally. In the case of physical problems it may be simpler just to close our eyes and focus on the part of the body where the phenomena (such as pain) we are tapping for is centered.
We tap on only one energy field
It is extremely important that we focus on only one energy field when we work. We should not focus on more than one emotion or problem. This will bring forth two different sets of data into the energy field that we are tapping on and will prevent us from having results.
I would like to make a personal observation concerning confused energy fields. When I was first employing EFT, I noticed that whenever I focused on an emotion I wanted to work with, my mind would, out of habit, bring forth an intellectual construct as to why I need not feel this way. I had been working for so many years with bringing positive thoughts to mind that this was happening automatically.
These positive thoughts, however, always existed parallel to the negative emotions. They actually never replaced them. Now, while doing EFT, the automatically appearing positive thought was creating interference in the energy field of the emotion I was tapping for.
I made an effort to stop this tendency of bringing the positive to the mind. This allowed the negative emotion to be the only energy field present while tapping and thus the tapping was more effective.
After some rounds of EFT, resulting in the lowering of the SUD, the positive perception appears by itself now without the negative feeling.
For this reason, when the level of discomfort (SUD) is lowered, we can introduce the positive alternative perceptions.
The points
Refer to the accompanying diagram to see where the points are located. We are also mentioning, for those interested, the acupuncture meridians and the numbers of the points where we tap. It is not necessary to know or understand these. I personally am not proficient in this science.
We usually tap in this sequence:
1. The corner of the eyebrow where it unites with the bridge of the nose. Referred to as EB Eyebrow point. (Bladder Meridian 2)
2. The side of the eye on the temple. SE - side of eye. (Gall Bladder 1)
3. Under the eye at the lower part of the bone. UE - under eye. (Stomach Meridian 2)
4. Under the nose and above the lip. UN - under nose (Governing Vessel Meridian 25 - 26)
5. Under the lower lip and above the chin. Ch ? chin (Conception Vessel Meridian 24)
6. Under the armpit on the side of the body approximately level with the nipples. UA - under arm (Spleen Meridian 21)
This is a slight modification of Gary?s series (remember according to Gary it does not matter in which series we tap). This will be explained later.
7. Under the collarbone and directly to the left or right of the sternum. This is in the soft spot just below the collarbone (the highest horizontal bone on the front of the body) and to the side of the sternum (the vertical bone in the center of the chest) CB - collarbone point. (Kidney Meridian 27)
This point is not to be confused with the sore spot where we rub in order to correct psychological reversal. The sore spot is further from the center and lower than the collarbone point.
8. On the outside of the thumb at the point where the nail unites with the skin. (If you place your palms on your abdomen, the part you tap on will be turned up towards your head.) Th - Thumb point. (Lung Meridian 11)
9. On the outside of the index finger at the point where the nail unites with the skin. (If you place your palms on your abdomen, the part you tap on will be turned up towards your head.) IF - index finger. (Large Intestine Meridian 1)
10. On the outside of the middle finger at the point where the nail unites with the skin. (If you place your palms on your abdomen, the part you tap on will be turned up towards your head.) MF - middle finger. (Circulation - sex Meridian 9)
11. On the outside of the little finger at the point where the nail unites with the skin. (If you place your palms on your abdomen, the part you tap on will be turned up towards your head.) BF - baby finger. (Heart Meridian 9)
12. On the side of the hand where you would hit a piece of wood if doing karate. KC - karate chop point. (Small Intestine Meridian 3-4)
This is the same point we tapped on while correcting for psychological reversal.
So, in step 2 we tap around seven times on each of the twelve points as we repeat the reminder phrase once at each point.
Except for the Under the Nose and Chin points all of the rest are located on the right and left sides of the body. It does not matter whether you tap on the left or right. You could even change sides in the middle of a tapping sequence.
Although there is theoretically no benefit in tapping in a balanced way on right and left, my many years of yoga, which demands balance, cause me to prefer it.
There is no disadvantage and some people seem to find it more effective. Also if you do a lot of tapping with one hand, it might get tired. I personally choose to switch sides and hands.
In general, however, EFT is done by tapping with the dominant hand on either side of the body.
Step 3 - The Gamut Series
This is the strangest part of the procedure. Some people feel silly when they first perform it.
It, however, plays the role of balancing the energies and the activity of the right and left hemisphere of the brain between tapping sequences.
It is made up nine movements which we do as we tap rapidly on the gamut point (see diagram) which is located on either hand in the groove created by the bones leading from the wrist to the knuckles of the smallest two fingers (ring finger and little finger). The tapping is done in the groove towards the knuckles. (Thyroid 3)
As we tap around three to five times a second, we make the following movements and procedure.
1. We close our eyes.
2. We open them.
3. Keeping the head straight, we look hard down right.
4. Keeping the head straight, we look hard down left.
5. Keeping the head straight, we make circles with the eyes to the right.
6. Keeping the head straight, we make circles with the eyes to the left.
7. We hum a few bars of any song (Gary likes "Happy Birthday") (two to five seconds)
8. We count from one to five out loud (unless you do not want to be heard)
9. We hum a few bars of any tune again. (Two to five seconds)
This may seem silly, but it does help to balance the energies. When we hum and count and hum, we activate the two hemisphere of the brain.
Having completed the step three - the Gamut Series, we are now ready for step four.
Step four - The sequence again.
Step four is the same as step two. We go through all the twelve points tapping around seven times at each point as we repeat the reminder phrase.
This completes one round.
More Details about this process can be found my book FREE TO BE HAPPY from our site
or from Gary Craig's site http://www.emofree.com.
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"EFT and Overcoming Fear "
EFT and Overcoming Fear in Order to Experience Total Freedom
"We Have Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself"
Franklin Theodore Roosevelt
Indeed fear is our greatest obstacle to happiness, peace and fulfillment on a personal, social and international level. All anger, hatred, prejudice, aggression, violence, and war can be ultimately attributed to fear.
For this reason, we are dedicating a separate chapter to fear.
If we want to be free, loving and happy beings or if we want to grow spiritually we will need to overcome all fears.
Now, with EFT we can do this quite easily.
Fear is the Mother of All Negative Emotions
The various expressions of fear have different names such as insecurity, anxiety, concern, weakness, worry, inability, confusion, fear itself, depression, denial, shock, hysteria, panic, paralysis, anger, hate, rage, aggressiveness, violence and jealously, etc.
From the moment we relinquished the security of our mother?s womb and had our umbilical cord cut, we experienced separation, isolation, insecurity and fear.
We fear for our bodies and personalities, because we know they are vulnerable and mortal. Out of fear, we seek to create some sense of security by ensuring that we have "sufficient" people, money, and objects, as well as a professional and social position, etc. in our lives.
Then we experience a second level of fear: the fear that we might not be able to hold onto everything we have acquired. We might lose them to death, decay or change.
We fear not having what we need in order to feel secure and happy.
We fear losing these things when we do have them.
We fear others who might take these things from us.
We fear change that might make them disappear.
We fear death, which means losing all this.
Some Types of Fears
There are literally thousands of various manifestations of fear. We can fear just about anything our imagination allows. Let us list just a few, while remembering that they all stem from the basic fear of pain, rejection or extinction of the ego or its various attachments.
Our most common fears are:
1. Rejection
2. Failure
3. Death of a loved one
4. Our own death
5. Illness and weakness
6. Physical and / or emotional pain
7. People and animals
A List of Fears
Take a look at the following list to see which stimuli or thoughts might sometimes cause you to feel uncomfortable. Basic fears can be expressed in an infinite number of ways according to each person?s specific mental mechanisms.
Remember that sometimes fears can be subconscious, thus, although our basic emotion is fear, we might react with anger or we might cry. Even when we may not consciously fear, our inner child or subconscious may.
Check on this list for whatever makes you feel uncomfortable and add anything else you discover.
1. Your own death
2. Sudden death by accident
3. Death of a loved one
4. Illness
5. Being paralyzed
6. Growing old
7. War
8. Earthquakes
9. Snakes, rats, mice, cockroaches
10. Dogs, cats
11. Failure at work
12. Failure in relationships
13. Failure at school
14. Failure in life
15. Rejection from others
16. Being laughed at by others
17. Criticism
18. Loneliness
19. Financial insecurity
20. Others? aggressiveness
21. The dark
22. The unknown
23. God or his punishment
24. Losing your freedom
25. Losing your self-worth
26. Conflicts with others
27. The sea, heights, fires
28. Cars, planes, boats
29. Elevators, confined spaces
30. Large gatherings of people
31. Travelling by yourself
32. Losing your sanity
33. Being rejected in a love relationship
34. The opposite sex
35. Microbes and dirt
36. Others_________________________________
For many of us darkness offers a festive occasion for fear to play with our imagination. A dark, unfamiliar room (or even a familiar one after seeing one of those horror films) becomes quite threatening. Darkness is the unknown and therefore is associated with danger and death. The mind can imagine anything hiding in the darkness. We are ignorant of what lies in darkness and thus identify it with danger and death.
EMPLOYING EFT FOR FEARS
The next step is to employ EFT on each and every fear until we are totally free to experience peace, love and happiness in every situation.
Also, when dealing with other issues such as anger, jealousy and resentment, etc. we will often come into contact with our fears, which are the basis of those feelings.
Remember: We use two phrases when doing the set up.
A. We rub on the sore spot on one side (or tap the side of the hand) repeating phrase "A" three times. We are supplying alternative "A" phrases. If none of them suit you, create your own. We should, however always start with the original phrase "Even though I fear _____________, I deeply and profoundly love myself."
Once we feel that to some extent, we can move on to the others, if we choose.
B. Then we repeat phrase "B" three times while rubbing on the sore spot on the other side (or tapping on the side of the other hand). "I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of _______"
C. Then we repeat the "C" reminder phrase while tapping on the 12 points. "Fear of ______.."
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A.1. Even though I fear _____________, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
A.2. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now feel totally safe and secure with that.
A.3. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now feel totally capable of dealing with it.
A.4. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now experience my inner security and faith in my ability to deal with this.
A.5. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now feel peace in relationship to that.
A.6. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now realize that I am totally safe and secure.
A.7. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now experience myself as an eternal soul in the process of evolution.
A.8. Even though until now I have feared _____________, I now experience myself as divine energy.
B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept) to be free from this fear of ______.
C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of ______.
Repeat as many rounds as necessary in order to get totally free from each fear.
This process may take you through other, perhaps deeper or parallel fears, emotions, aspects, physical sensations and even childhood experiences.
Just keep on tapping until you get through and free and happy!
If you feel that you cannot deal with what comes up, then get help from a psychotherapist preferably trained in EFT.
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1. What is EFT? ... 10
2. How to employ EFT .. 14
Points to tap on É 19
EFT - Flow Diagram ... 20
Reminder of the Process É 24
Acupuncture Points É 29
EFT flow Diagram É 30
EFT Process Worksheet É 31
3. The Stages of Employing EFT ... 32
4. Methodology and Modifications ... 34
5. Working with Aspects of Emotions with EFT ... 38
6. Uses of EFT and Dealing with Aspects ... 42
7. Case Histories and a Study in Aspects in EFT -1 ... 49
8. Case Histories and a Study in Aspects in EFT - 2 ... 55
9. Overcoming Fear ... 66
10. EFT and Health Issues ... 70
11. Uses of EFT and Dealing with Addictions ... 74
12. Working on Goals with EFT ... 79
13. EFT and Self-esteem ... 84
14. EFT & Opening to Love ... 90
15. Using E.F.T. to Aid the Process of Forgiveness ... 96
16. EFT & Romantic Rejection ... 101
17. EFT and Coping with the Departure of Loved Ones ... 107
18. EFT and Codependency ... 115
19. EFT & Dealing with Victims ... 124
20. EFT & Dealing with Aloof Persons ... 132
21. EFT & Dealing with Interrogators ... 137
22. EFT & Dealing with Intimidators ... 141
23. EFT and Obstacles to Communication ... 145
24. EFT and Obstacles to Harmonious Love Relationships ... 152
25. Healing Childhood Experiences with EFT ... 156
26. EFT for Inner Conflicts ... 166
27. EFT & Finding our Life Purpose ... 176
28. EFT for Meditation and Prayer ... 184
29. EFT & the Impending Departure from the Physical Body ... 187
30. A Unifying Theory ... 198
Epilogue ... 122
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