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Self Knowledge Exercises
K29 - FREEING SELVES FROM MIRROR
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FREEING OUR SELVES FROM THE EFFECT OF MIRRORING

I. Once you have determined the various aspects within you which reflect in others analyze the beliefs which create those aspects of your being. Then create a list of positive beliefs which you want to strengthen so as to free your self from those aspects which are being reflected.

ASPECTS OF THE BELIEF WHICH THE OPPOSITE POSITIVE BELIEF

MY BEING CREATES IT WHICH WILL FREE ME FROM THAT

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3. MY BEHAVIOR

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4. FEARS

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5. EXPECTATIONS

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6. I AM NOT WORTHY

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7. I BEHAVE TO SELF

IN SAME WAY

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8. I WOULD SOMETIMES

LIKE TO BEHAVE THAT WAY

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9. REMINDS ME OF

CHILDHOOD BELIEFS

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10. I AM PLAYING

SOME ROLE HERE

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11. & 12.

ATTACHMENTS

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13. I FEEL GUILT

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14. I CRITICIZE

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15. INTERNAL

CONFLICTS

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16. I DO NOT

COMMUNICATE

EFFECTIVELY

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17. I NEED THIS

PROBLEM

FOR SOMETHING

NOW PLACE A CIRCLE AROUND THE THREE POSITIVE BELIEFS WHICH YOU WANT TO STRENGTHEN SO AS TO FREE YOUR SELF FROM THE MIRRORING OR BEING AFFECTED BY THE MIRRORING

CONTINUE ON THE BACK SIDE

II. A. WRITE HERE THE THREE BELIEFS WHICH YOU WANT TO STRENGTHEN SO AS TO FREE YOUR SELF FROM THE MIRRORING OR BEING AFFECTED BY THE MIRRORING

1. ______________________________________________________________________

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2. ______________________________________________________________________

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3. ______________________________________________________________________

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B. NOTE HERE THE WAYS IN WHICH YOU PLAN TO STRENGTHEN THOSE POSITIVE BELIEFS

(Written affirmations, positive projection, inner child work, acting as if already believe, EMDR)

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C. IF YOU ALREADY BELIEVED THESE THREE BELIEFS HOW WOULD YOU BEHAVE DIFFERENTLY IN YOUR LIFE, AND HOW DO YOU IMAGINE THAT THE OTHERS WOULD REACT TO YOU?

1. What would you do which you do not do now because your faith in those beliefs is not yet strong enough? ________________________________________________________________________________________

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2. What would you cease to do because you do it now only because you are not firmly established in those positive beliefs? ______________________________________________

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3. How do you imagine others will behave to you when you have made those changes in your beliefs and behavior?

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III. ONCE YOU HAVE DETERMINED THE ASPECTS OF YOUR PERSONALITY WHICH ARE REFLECTING IN THE OTHERS BEHAVIOR OR WHICH MAKE YOU VULNERABLE TO THAT BEHAVIOR, YOU CAN DO THE FOLLOWING IN ORDER TO GET FREE.

A. WRITE A LETTER in which you explain to the other that you have realized that you have realized that he or she is simply mirroring various aspects of your personality.

1. Explain that you realize that he or she is simply your mirror.

2. Explain details about this mirroring take place and what exactly in you is being mirrored.

3. Admit the role that you have discover that you play.

4. Take responsibility for creating your reality.

5. Forgive the other for blaming him or her.

6. Explain what you would like from the other in order to feel better in this relationship.

7. Share with him or her the positive beliefs which you want to strengthen and ask for help in empowering them.

8. Request any help which you feel that you need.

B. DO PSYCHODRAMA in which you express all of the above verbally to a someone trained in this art.

C. If you think it will be beneficial explain all this to the person(s) involved.

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