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Back To Index K06 - OBSTACLES TO LOVE OTHERS
In which situations do you loose you sense of love and unity. You may feel any of the following emotions: fear, negativity, alienation, discomfort, aversion, worry, anxiety, anger, hate, reservation, bitterness, jealousy, resentment, disillusionment, frustration, rejection towards the other or towards your self, inferiority, superiority, or any other type of emotional distancing from that person. After each situation note down some of the emotions which you might feel in that situation. 1. When others are different, or from another group or some specific grouping. a. Strange dress______________________________________________ b. Other political party _________________________________________ c. Other religion______________________________________________ d. Other social - economic group _________________________________ e. Other educational or mental level _____________________________ f. Other country______________________________________________ g. Other race______________________________________________ 2. When the other do not agree with me. When they believe and express different opinions, or reject mine. ___________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 3. When they criticize me or persons or groups important to me. _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ 4. When others obstruct me or persons important to me from fulfilling important needs ie. Food, shelter, sex, work, sleep, money, vacations, meditation, the other's approval and esteem. _______________________________________________________________________ 5. When my energy is low or I am not feeling well. _______________________________________________________________________ 6. When others harm me or important others physically, or hurt us emotionally___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 7. When I have personal problems which occupy much of my energy and mental resources. _______________________________________________________________________ 8. When others do not live up to my expectations or do not function as we would like them to. ( especially children, spouses, siblings and parents.)_______________________________________________________________ 9. When I do not love and accept myself._________________________________ 10. When I feel guilt or fear_____________________________________________ Analysis and active listening concerning our obstacles towards loving others Try to answer as honestly as possible 1. In which situations (in the face of which type of behaviors, or character types) do you lose your feelings of love unity or harmony with the others? 2. What emotions do you usually feel in those situations? 3. What do you believe : A. About the other's behavior or attitude? B. About the other? C. About your self (your safety, self worth etc.) In such situations? 4. How could you manage to sustain your feelings of unity and love in future even in such situations, or in the face of the same behavior or character types? 5. What would you like to communicate to such a person, or in such a situation? | ||