This belief causes him to suppress some of his natural needs and desires creating a "mask" and a "shadow". His "mask" gives the appearance of a person without needs or desires, when the truth is that he has many festering in his subconscious (shadow). He hides his "evil" secrets including his sexual feelings even from himself sometimes.

He tends also to suppress his wife and children in the same way. He criticizes, rejects and accuses others (and himself) for mistakes, inconsistencies or "immoral behavior".

He finds ways to "advertise" actions that show how good, righteous or superior he is. He also plays the role of the savior, the teacher, the counselor, the parent, etc.

He can be fanatical about some of his beliefs. He compares himself to others creating for himself either feelings of guilt and inferiority or of pride and superiority. These feelings obviously prevent him from feeling unity with those around him.

Some of the beliefs that lead him to and sustain this role are:

1. I will be accepted only if I am right, good, or spiritual.

2. I must do what others consider right and good in order to have their approval.

3. If I am not good and righteous, God will punish me (He might also punish my children).

4. If I am or appear good, righteous and/or spiritual, I am superior to others.

5. I am worthy only if I am superior.

6. I am not worthy as I am, and I have to do much in order for others to love me and accept me.

7. A "spiritual" person does not have needs or desires.

8. A "spiritual" person is always kind and accommodating.

Some of the beliefs that might free him from this role are:

(We need here to distinguish between being good or spiritual and playing that role or basing our self worth or security on that. A naturally good and spiritual person does not think about being so and does not compare him or her self with others and definitely does not feel superior to others)

1. I am worthy of love and respect exactly as I am.

2. My self worth has nothing to do with others' approval.

3. Just as all other beings, I as divine creation, am good and lovable as I am.

4. God loves me unconditionally.

5. All beings are equally worthy of love and respect.

6. My self worth is based on my being and not on how much I do.

7. As a soul in the process of evolution I accept and acknowledge my weaknesses, needs and desires while simultaneously evolving through them.

8. I as respond much as possible the needs of those around me, while simultaneously feeling comfortable with not accommodating them when that seems appropriate.

9. My self worth is based on my inner being, my existence itself, my inner divine nature and on no other external factors.

10. My self worth is a simple function of the fact that I, as all others creatures, am a unique aspect of divine creation.

11. My self worth cannot be increased nor decreased. I can never be more or less worthy of love and respect than another.