It is unlikely that they are doing so purposely to make Beverly suffer, but this is certainly how she perceives it. Her sleep is obstructed more by her feelings that they are not respecting her, than by the noise itself. She feels injustice, bitterness, anger and frustration as to what to do. She would not like to call the police, since she is afraid of creating an even greater problem. She does not know what else to do.

She has complained a number of times. They say they will solve the problem, but nothing changes. She has even thought of buying them a carpet so as not to hear them so distinctly. But do to the loss of sleep, she is becoming even more irritable, upset and angry.

The feeling that she is not respected is even more of a problem than the noise itself. Her family is bothered to a much lesser degree and no one else has a problem sleeping.

What can she do?

Some of Beverly's lessons might be:

1. To express her needs to others with greater clarity, assertiveness and love.

2. To free herself from the belief that there will be conflict if she becomes more assertive; that she will hurt others or that they will hurt her in the case of a confrontation.

3. To free herself from the importance which she places on what others think about her.

4. Not to take this sound personally as a rejection of her needs or person, but simply as something which the others need to do or as something which makes them happy.

5. To accept others and love them even when they are unable to respect her needs.

6. To send positive thoughts and light to these people, even when they are unable to cooperate.

7. To believe that others can be interested in her needs and want to cooperate with her.

8. To love herself even when others are not able to respect her needs or feelings.

9. To check and see if perhaps she herself is not respecting other's needs.

10. To, lovingly, call the police.

She might be helped by some of the following beliefs:

1. I love and accept myself even when others do not respect my needs.

2. I love and accept others even when they are unable to respect my needs.

3. Others love and care for me and want to cooperate with me.

4. I can confront others assertively and lovingly without there being a conflict.

5. I can be even more assertive if this is important to me.