Because of this, she has become extremely protective and controlling. She needs to know where they are at every moment and considerably restricts their movements. This is tiring for her and very unpleasant for the children. The older they get, the more they rebel against this suppression.

Her extreme stance causes her husband Michael to balance her by going to the opposite extreme and allowing the children more freedom than he would if he were alone with them. This creates frequent conflicts between Nora and Michael concerning how much the children need to be controlled in order to protect them and how much freedom they need in order to mature and gain inner strength.

This situation is unpleasant for all of them.

1. To have more faith in her children, their intelligence and ability to protect themselves and succeed in life.

2. To have more faith in God and the Divine plan for her children; that each is being cared for by the one Universal Consciousness and that nothing "accidental" can happen.

3. To see her children as immortal spirits in a process of evolution, temporarily incarnated in these bodies for the process of learning, and that nothing could ever happen to them which is not a part of their learning process.

4. To free herself from the role of parent and to realize that her self-worth does not depend on what happens to her children.

5. To free herself from anxiety about what other people will say about her if something happens to her children.

6. To find other interests in life so that she does not need them so much and focus on them excessively.

7. To free herself from any feelings of guilt which make her feel that she might be punished through her children.

8. To love them without needing to receive from them or being attached to affirmation through their success.

9. To realize that we learn through our experiences and that we develop strength by confronting difficulties.

10. To realize that she is undermining their own self-confidence by worrying about them.

11. To understand that her negative thoughts pass onto to them whether she expresses them or not.

12. To realize that worrying and fear can solve no problems.

1. My children are immortal souls in the process of evolution. Within them lies all the knowledge and power to protect themselves and continue their evolution.

2. Life gives them in each moment exactly what they need for their inner development.

3. My self worth is in me and cannot be measured by how my children do.

4. My children are God's children and they are only temporarily given to me for their first years in this world. As they grow older they becomes God's responsibility not mine.

5. I trust in the wisdom of the Divine Consciousness that controls the universe.

6. I do whatever I can for my children and leave the rest up to God.

7. I would not like to be suppressed in this way because of someone else's fears for me.

1. I love Nora and want to understand and help her.

2. I desire to find a balance between protection and freedom.

3. Through open communication we can all find a solution for this problem.

4. I understand and accept Nora as she is.

5. I understand her fears and needs and comply with them as much as possible, while simultaneously helping her to confront them.

1. We love our mother and perceive her love behind those fears.

2. We understand her fears and needs and comply with them as much as possible, while simultaneously helping her to confront them.

3. If we were in her position, we would want help and understanding from others.