Her youngest child is frequently ill. Amelia who is 5 years old has breathing problems and loses days at school. Tatiana's mother Margarita has arthritic pains and cancer and is in bed most of the time.

Her husband Arnold would like to live in a happier home. Tatiana would like to accommodate him but just cannot allow herself to be happy and enjoy herself when her loved ones are not well.

What could Tatiana's lessons be?

a. To understand that her loved ones are independent, eternal souls who create their own reality in order to learn the lessons they have come to learn at this phase of their lives. It is not by chance that they are not well.

b. To give love and assistance without feeling responsible for the others' health, happiness or success.

c. To believe in a wise and divine justice for her loved ones.

d. To perceive them as eternal souls rather than as "my" child, parent, spouse, etc.

e. To realize that her happiness could lift her loved ones more than her sadness.

f. To ask herself, "Would I want others to be unhappy when I am not well or would this add to my burden?"

Some beliefs that might help her are:

a. Each of us is an eternal, evolving soul.

b. My loved ones are creating the situations they need in order to grow.

c. I can help, but I cannot create anybody else's reality.

d. I can help others much more with my happiness.

e. There is a wise and just power controlling the universe.