She is very much in the role of the victim. On the one hand she believes that she must be the "good girl" who always says yes in order to be lovable and acceptable. On the other she also gets a feeling of self worth by being the victim and especially when the others are not "good". She feels her self worth when she sacrifices and others do not. She is the good one and the others are not.

This has become her identity, her life role. Because of this she cannot allow her self to be happy or enjoy life's pleasures. If she were happy she would no longer be the victim and then she would lose her identity and her self worth.

She needs to be unhappy. Only in this state does she feel safe and comfortable.

1. I am not worthy.

2. I am a victim.

3. I am not lovable.

4. Others will love me only when I do things for them and sacrifice my needs for them.

5. Whoever sacrifices for others is "good" and worthy.

6. The victim is "good" and the abuser is "bad".

7. I do not deserve to enjoy what I want or express my needs.

8. The more mistakes and faults I can find in others, the more I am worthy.

9. My self worth is dependent on what others think of me.

1. I am worthy of love and respect exactly as I am.

2. I am the sole creator of my reality.

3. Others will love me even when I cannot respond to their needs.

4. A sacrifice with love is love. A sacrifice out of fear of rejection is no sacrifice. There are actually no sacrifices. There is only love and fear.

6. I am good as I am.

7. I deserve to enjoy what I like and to express my needs.

8. I accept and love all unconditionally - including my self.

9. My self worth is independent of what others think of me.

10. I am interesting and attractive without my problems

11. I communicate openly and sincerely in every situation.