Both of them have a discipline problem. They cannot control certain needs and urges which are undermining their health and appearance. Both of them reject themselves for this, but get angry when the other reminds them of what inside they already know.

Nota does not realize that she gets angry when Mixalis reminds her about her weight or her eating, because she herself rejects herself abut this matter. And neither does Mixalis understand that he gets upset when she reminds him about his smoking and his health, because he himself is concerned about this. Each is reflecting to other's own thoughts and fears about himself and herself.

Whenever Nota reminds him or complains about the smoking, he reacts like an adolescent and smokes more on purpose as if establishing his freedom to do whatever he wants. And whenever he comments on her weight or eating, she gets upset and within the hour you can find her sneaking into the kitchen and secretly eating whatever she can quench her unhappiness with.

Both are filled with feelings of failure, guilt, disappointment, self rejection but also deprivation when they can not get what they want. Both are covering up and quieting other feelings and needs through their cigarettes and food.

Because each rejects himself or herself, he or she also rejects the other.

What could their lessons be? Could they need to learn some of the following lessons: That they are free to do whatever they want to do with their lives? That they are not a better persons if they are able to employ a discipline, and neither does God love them more? That they are not limited by any discipline but actually freer from their needs, desires and weaknesses? That discipline is a basic path towards real freedom? To approach discipline as an adult who sees the value that it has for him or her, because he or she see it as an intelligent thing to do? To get free from the role of the child and parent with themselves? (The parent says they must do this, the child feels suppressed and reacts. The 'parent' rejects the child and so on.) To love and accept themselves exactly as they are and do this discipline because they want to and not because then they will like themselves better? To avoid doing disciplines to please others, to do them because they realize that they are intelligent? To think deeply about why they want to do this? To accept others exactly as they are, whether they are disciplined or not? To develop a deeper relationship with God so as to be more fulfilled form within? To free themselves from guilt? To realize that when someone reacts, that he is not really free but is limited to the need to react? To free themselves from past experiences in which they have felt controlled (or danger of being controlled) by others? To discover the emotions they are trying to cover with food and cigarettes and release them? That they are God's children and are lovable exactly as they are? That their real freedom is freedom from their addictions, fears sand weaknesses and reactions? That they have all the power within them to do whatever they decide?

If they accept themselves and each other and approach the matter with self respect and logic, they will create the lives they want.