She is extremely attached to his being well for a few basic reasons. The first is that she is dependent on him for her sense of security. She does not feel safe without him and and if he is not well, he might die and then she will not be able to bear it. He has been her source of company for thirty years now. She would be alone and lonely without him.

Another reason is that she feels responsible for his health. Thus, if he is not well, she feels that she is a failure. She is not a good wife or protector of her husband's health. Also, if is he is ill, she must spend much more energy taking care of him, and this means tiring much more.

Antonis on the other hand has reverted to the role of the child who refuses to do what he is supposed to do for his health. He reacts against what he is supposed to do by eating what he is not supposed to, not taking his medicines, working more hours than he should.

He feels ill, weak, and suppressed when he has to pay attention to these matters. He feels better and freer when he ignores them. He does not want his wife badgering him about his food, his work or wearing warmer clothing. That makes him feel weak, suppressed and like a small child. He does not want to die or be ill, but would perhaps prefer those over a restricted life. He may regret this later, but this is how he sees it now.

They have frequent arguments and clashes when Anastasia complains and pressures him about these matters. She becomes the interrogator and then the victim. He plays aloof ignoring her until he has had too much and then becomes the intimidator.

She pressures him because she loves him, but also because she feels responsible for him and cannot bear to see him ill, or even worse, dead. He reacts because he wants to feel free and capable and not ill or suppressed. Each has his or her needs which are now conflicting.

What can they do? What are their lessons?

Anastasia: Does she need to overcome her fear of his being ill and allow him to do what he wants, or should she keep reminding him of what he needs to do? Is her lesson to understand that she cannot be responsible for his health or life? Is it to be able to overcome her fear of his departure from the physical body? Does she need to learn a different way of approaching him, perhaps expressing her own needs in an I -message and not criticizing? Does she need to face her own insecurities and loneliness? What does she do which stimulates Antoni's reaction? Does she need to learn to help without feeling responsible? Does she need to strengthen her faith in the divine plan? Or to see her loved one as a soul in evolution temporarily living in physical body? Or to think as positively as possible, and keep a smiling positive vibration, while employing all possible techniques for the healing of his body? Or to do whatever she can and leave the results up to God having faith that the best for everyone's evolution will happen? Or to deepen her spiritual life and contact with God? Dies she need to love him unconditionally regardless of his behavior which can sometimes become negative when he suffers? Perhaps she also needs to take care of of my body and mind with a discipline of correct diet, exercises, breathing, relaxation and vitamins so that she can keep a good quality of energy during this testing time? Or to be able to lovingly sacrifice her needs at this time in order to serve the him?

Antonis: Does he need to learn to understand Anastasia's fears? Does he need to learn to overcome his feelings of suppression and be more responsible about protecting his health, or is his lesson to live as he likes until he dies? What does he do which causes Anastasia to react in her way? Does he need to free himself from his programmed ideas about being a man, about work and about freedom?

Through analysis and a desire to free themselves from these clashes, they will find their lessons and reexperience their love for each other. Anastasia will benefit especially from chapters 13 & 16, while Antonis from 13 & 19.