She fears that they might be harmed or might suffer in some way. This turns her into a verified "interrogator", a role through which he attempts to control them and her husband so that she can "protect" everyone. She uses questions criticism and advice to hopefully prevent any problems for her children. But in this way, she has become their problem. They feel suffocated and have begun to react negatively.

She drags her husband Theodoros into these arguments both in front of her children and also when they are alone, trying to convince him that she is right about what she asking from the children for their own good.

Theodoros is also concerned about the children but not does not think of all the dangers which come to Olymbia's mind. She thinks of the problems they will have 10 years from now in their marriages and work environment. He sees them as children who are now interested in other things than what they will be doing in ten years, and who will gradually face those situations when they come to them. There are times when he is infected by Olymbia's anxiety and starts to fear and worry, because these thoughts mirror some of his own fears.

However, he subconsciously balances her by seldom agreeing with her, something which drives her crazy and infuriates her. She then moves from the interrogator to the intimidator. Theodoros tries to calm her down at first, but frequently ends up in the counter intimidator, when she does not stop.

Olympia feels totally responsible for her children's health, happiness, education, success and life in general. If their lives are not perfect, then she is a total failure, and has no self worth as a parent and as a person. She also has very little faith in their own ability to care for themselves and program their lives. Although she goes to church regularly, she does not connect her faith with any type of divine plan or inner divine guidance or protection for her children.

She has become totally disappointed with Theodoros who by her standards, is totally indifferent and irresponsible in bring up the children. She does not see that her extreme forces him to the other extreme. And he does not see that his going to the other extreme, simply aggravates her condition.

Each child protects himself in a different way. The oldest boy, has become the perfect Aloof, ignoring all this and making sure he is out of house most of the time. Their daughter reacts like an intimidator towards the mother and plays the victim to her father. The youngest boy keeps to himself and his games.

What do Olympia and Theodoros need to learn in order to find their happiness, peace and unity again?

Olympia: Could she need to learn some of the following lessons: To have more faith in her children, their intelligence and ability to protect themselves and succeed in life? To have more faith in God and the Divine plan for her children? That each is being over-watched by the one universal consciousness and that nothing "accidental" can happen? To see her children as immortal spirits in a process of evolution, temporarily incarnated in these bodies for the process of learning, and that nothing could ever happen to them which is not a part of their learning process? To free her self from the role of parent and to realize that her self-worth does not depend on what happens to her children? To free herself from her anxiety about what other people will say about her if something happens to her children? To find other interests in life so that she does not need them so much and focus on them in an exaggerated way? To free herself from any feelings of guilt which make her feel that she might be punished through her children or that they do not have divine protection? To love them without needing to receive from them or being attached to affirmation through their success? To realize that humans learn through their experiences and that those who do not confront difficulties do not develop inner strength? To realize that she is only harming their own self-confidence by worrying about them? To understand that her negative thoughts pass onto to them whether she expresses them or not? To realize that worrying and fear can solve no problems?

Theodoros: Could he need to learn some of the following lessons: That his not agreeing systematically with Olympia only makes the problem worse? To express his opinions and needs more clearly? To remove from himself those parts which also fear for the children? To take a more active role in guiding the children? To show more affection and love to Olympia? To spend more time with the children? To be able to keep his patience when Olympia gets anxious and not stoke her fire with his tension?

Both can discover there lessons by working with the questionnaire in the chapter 13 on "Learning Life's Lessons."