She has been ill for years now and this is taking its toll on her husband Socrates and the children. At times they feel that she is using her illness to get attention and to force them into doing things for her. This upsets them and makes them aggressive and critical towards her.

Then, Gina, who is already in the role of victim, feels even more so because now instead of the support and love she needs to get well, she is receiving criticism, accusations and threats.

This of course is the way in which the others are protecting their own energy fields so that they are not so drained by her needs and demands. They would like to see her smile once in a while, a perhaps say a positive word. But Gina is not feeling well and is in the role of victim and thus seldom smiles or says something positive.

Lost in the helpless of her illness she feels unhappy, because she is not receiving the love she needs. The others do love her and want her to be well, but the illness has carried on to long for all of them and they are all drained.

No one is to blame, but all are suffering.

Gina wonders why she is ill, why she cannot get well. One factor might be that her mother was always ill and often blamed Gina for not respecting her illness and often accused her of making her illness worse and even that Gina would be the cause of her death. When her mother died when Gina was only 15, and at the height of her rebellion a an adolescent. Gina subconsciously felt guilty, that she was not giving any attention to her mother at that time and was in general negative towards her. Was this illness her punishment or was it her own guilt creation? Was she really ill? Did she really want to get well? Would the others pay attention to her if she was totally well? Does she deserve to be totally well since she did not respect her mothers illness?

Socrates, also wondered, "Why am I so harsh with her? I love her and want to help her? What makes me get angry when see her there lying in bed, feeling sorry for herself? What do I need to do? Should I care for her as if she were ill or force her to get out of bed and find her energy? What is best for her?"

Also his need for freedom was in direct conflict with his need to help his wife. He was unhappy that he had to spend so many hours in the house. He would also like to get out and have some recreation. He would like to invite some people over. But all of these are impossible now.

What are the answers to their questions? What do they need to learn?

Gina: Does she need to realize that she can create her own health? Does she need to forgive herself for her mother's death? Does she need to understand that the others really love her, just as she loved her mother, but could not be by her side continuously? Was she now experiencing what her mother experienced, and why, what is the lesson? Does she need to take a more active role in creating her health? Does she need to learn to think more positively? Perhaps she needs to get free from her beliefs in guilt and punishment?

Socrates: Does he need to learn to understand and serve Gina more, or to let her take responsibility and be forced to stand on her own two feet? Does he need to communicate more honestly with her, so that she does not misinterpret his non participation at times? Is his lesson to learn to serve and let go of all other needs? Does he need to learn to get out on his own, even if she cannot go with him?

If each learns his and her own lessons, they will refind their happiness. Working with the questionnaire in Chapter 13 will help them.